Thursday, January 28, 2010

We've Decided

Husband and I have been married for six years now and it's high time we had children. My body hasn't been able to conceive and I've made peace with that. So, we have been considering adoption. I'm actually quite excited about adoption. As a fellow blogger put it, "It is so beautiful and so Polynesian!". I totally agree.

I think of my Samoan grandmother (my mother's mother) who gave up four of her seventeen children to different families because she knew they would be able to give the best life to her children. That kind of love, the kind that my grandmother had that allowed her to give up her children for their sakes, is selfless. After the murder of my grandfather, my grandmother had few choices on being able to support her family and giving up her children was one of them. Here we are, nearly 50 years later. My mother and her siblings are all in touch and have been for several decades.

Adoption story #2: My parents were foster parents before. January 1994, a three-month old baby boy entered our lives as a foster child in our home. Several years later, the State of Hawaii granted my parents the ability to adopt him. My eyes tear up when I think him, my little brother. He's 16 now and I adore him now more than ever. He's such a handsome kid. A few years later, another boy entered our family as a foster child and was eventually adopted also. He's 12 now. Time flies so quickly!

Adoption IS a natural choice for my husband and I. I don't feel like I have to physically bare a child even though I welcome the opportunity. So, I'm looking forward to this process. My mother tells me that as soon as I adopt, I'd probably get pregnant in no time. That's funny how that works. (A dear friend of mine was down in Mexico earlier this month and bought me some Clomid. She is so funny!)

My husband has been ready to adopt for quite some time. I haven't felt pressure from him to bare children and I have overcome the feeling of inadequacy. My husband has two children from previous relationships so his DNA has already made it to the earth. No pressure there. I guess, the person holding back this process has been me. So the title of this post should be "I'VE DECIDED" instead of We've Decided.


"Love or Perish" - W. H. Auden said...

LIKE LIKE LIKE!! it's not FB but I DO LIKEY A LOT!!!!!! congrats, you will make a great mother by any means.

The Songer said...

Yay... Im very excited for you!

All the blessings and love you'll bring to children who other wise might be missing out on it will come back ten fold! Good luck with the process!

Live Well, Laugh Often, Love Much said...

That is wonderful news! Congratulations.

Reggie said...

I think it's wonderful that you've decided to adopt. There are plenty of children out there that need someone like you........and your husband to love them.

Good luck.