Saturday, December 03, 2005

Never Been Married?

If anyone has ever said that marriage is the easiest thing on earth, they either have never been married OR wasn't in LOVE with their spouse.

I love my husband. When we're hammering away at the issues in our relationship, we often get into these BIG arguments. He can't stand when I cry. I can't stand that he criticizes the tears. **sigh** It just exacerbates the problem and makes it bigger than it should be. Really, the only problem is communication. If we were both communicating effectively, we would be able to agree to disagree. And that has been hard for us.

I am EXTREMELY grateful for my husbands presence in my life. I honor him and bless the day we first crossed paths. He fits in my world most of the time. I am wayyyy more agressive than he is and it scares him to death. I am not afraid of failure. I am NOT afraid to try ANYTHING and that scares him as well. **sigh**

So we've been compromising.... if you CANNOT learn to do that, marriage is just NOT for you.

7 comments:

Hassan said...
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E said...

I've never been married but my parents have been together for well over 30 years and compromise is definitely one of the most important things as well as open communication.

chase said...

I agree. just keep talking mama, keep talking. neverstop talking. I know as long as me and joe can talk there's nothing we cant get thru.

ShellyP said...

Communication and Compromise - you are so right. And it really is a lot of work.

ProfessorGQ said...

best of luck to the both of you...

Systa Soul said...

I love the advice!

Shavar said...

...and as long as you both keep God first in your lives, it will always lead you back to peace because you know that He is the REAL head of the house.