Monday, August 09, 2010

Situation #9

Why do men, after breaking up with a girl, try to go after her best friend? I understand the reasoning behind it, but why cause more drama? It's down-low DIRTY!

Back a few years, I was placed in this situation. A man tried to get at me as soon as my girl dumped him. And it wasn't an ugly break up. At least, I didn't think so. I thought she handled it well. She didn't cheat on him. She didn't give him some lame excuse about not being in love or whatever. The odds just weren't in their favor to continue the relationship so she thought it better to dissolve the relationship. He agreed and went on his merry way.

I know he was banking on the fact that I'd tell her that he tried to get at me. But I kept all of it to myself. Til this day, she still doesn't know. What good could come of me telling her that her ex pursued me as soon as she cut him loose? I handled myself well. I shook his little antics off and didn't even entertain the thought. I was highly irritated that he even stepped to me in that manner.

Anyway, I was thinking about this particular situation because dude popped up outta the blue. I'm astounded! He'll be here sometime in the near future and wants to take all of us out to dinner, including our significant others. How foul is that? Sick! I had to tell husband about it just to put him on notice that a fool was coming to town. There's no guarantee that I'll even run into him. The thought makes my stomach turn.

Prior to my girl and dude breaking up, he and I were like "peas in a pod". We had loads of fun together. We got along great. He was like a brother to me. Thats why I was really disappointed when he tried to come at me so azz-backwards. After that whole cherade, we lost touch. Strange how he's popping up now. We'll see how it all turns out!


All-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalo said...

i have never done such
thats foul
dont sound like a man to me
anywho came over from DTW
hope u dont mind
the drive by, do chk me out one day

rawdawgbuffalo and if u like what u read, maybe u will come back, even Blog Roll Me

E said...

Ooooh that's messed up. It's good that you didn't feed further into that situation when he made his pass. Talk about awkward.

Anonymous said...

Sounds typical but I've been told that, in many situations, men view it entirely different. Anywho ... it happens more often than many would believe and, the kicker is, many times the guy gets exactly what he wants. My best friend and I were placed in a similar situation years ago with a guy she never was 'with' but had chilled with on occasion. Well, he decided he wanted to kick it with me and, even though my best friend gave me permission, I did not. Honestly, there really are too many people in the world to decided to mess with someone who I know messed with someone else I know (doesn't even have to be a friend) unless we're doing it all together. *wink*

Anywho ... who woulda thunk it? Hope he doesn't come to Hawaii and end up getting hurt.