Sunday, May 22, 2005

Love... with NO REGRETS

As we age we seem to forget what it's like to have that RIDE OR DIE LOVE. You know what I'm talkin' about... the kinda love that YOU KNOW would heal the entire world. The kinda love that we saw mirrored in Romeo and Juliet. The kinda love that is irrational, doesn't make sense, bordering chaotic.

We seem to associate age with wisdom. 98% of the time, I'll give it to the older generation... like fine wine, they got better with time and so will I. There is a deep wisdom that comes with a woman that's 80, having lived a complete life telling me what life is REALLY about. And the women I've come across that have reached that pinnacle have all said the same thing to me -- "Live life with NO REGRETS." At the end of my life, I'd hate to lay back and think of the things I've never done cuz really that's the ONLY things I'll regret. Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda... but didn't.

Love... with NO REGRETS... that's really my point with this post. I've seen it too many times... women AFRAID. I am in no way a guru of love and relationships because here I am on marriage number two and still in my 20's. But I haven't let fear of my past hurts dictate how I live my life today. Some may think that it's foolish to not have "learned" from past mistakes.... but the lesson is in the mistake. The lesson is in the failed relationship and vowing to steer clear of the same errors... NOT in avoiding relationships and intimacy altogether!

If you do what you ALWAYS do, you'll get what you always get.

So I say -- go for it! Fall in love a million times... then one day it'll be the same person EVERY day. Let go of the fear that keeps you in the same place and LOVE WITH NO REGRETS!

10 comments:

Dre said...

great post. I plan on falling in love again...hopefully soon.

ShellyP said...

Love with no regrets. I like that.

Systa Soul said...

well hot damn! you really preached! Loving is all about learning and not being afraid to experience ANYTHING! And with your advice I refuse to allow past hurts to haunt me and dictate the love I'll have in the future. Ride or die love? That's the best kind! I loved this entry! Thanks!

NeenaLove said...

@dre... fall in love a million times! LOL

@shellyp... i'm trying to practice loving with no regrets.

@systa soul... ride or die love, can you think of anything better?

WIP said...

Ride or die ... Jason's Lyric kinda love. Yeah, that brings memories flooding in for me. Thanks for the inspiration *smile*.

NeenaLove said...

@proactiff... yeah... ride or die love is hiding behind every corner... but you gotta go thru a whole bunch to get to where it becomes RIDE OR DIE. **winks**

Diva said...

Neena, you really hit me with this one girl. Between you posting this blog and Metaphyzxx's slow jam radio blog (specifically Tony Terry's "When I'm With You") I'm just a blubbering mess. :-) I really needed this one lady. A most sincere thanks.

Diva said...

Oh and you are right about the old folks knowing what they're talking about. Whenever I visit nursing homes, most of the women say that very thing...in the end it doesn't matter that the dishes were dirty, or the house wasn't clean every single day as long as you "live and love". When we're lying on our death beds, will all that stuff matter? Not a bit.

notyouraverage.... said...

definitely something to live by. and something i've had to practise recently! it feels good - not holding on to thins and rather, just moving on and living.

LINA said...

Awe, loved this. Gives a gal a different perspective outside the fear of ever falling in love, not to mention when you only just dream about it and never really believe that it will happen. This is very enlightening. Thanks.