Went to Kansas City yesterday to watch the gospel play, A Man of Her Dreams. The storyline was one step below flimsy and was unbelievably PREDICTABLE. Basically, it was a soap opera on stage with some songs thrown in for dramatic effect....which were actually kinda good.
Christopher Williams was the headlining name but the REAL star was A.J. Johnson. If it weren't for him and his comedic antics, I would more than likely NOT have enjoyed the show. It wasn't a TERRIBLE experience... no... not that at all... but I just expected MORE.
The story didn't demand anything of me which, of course, means that it didn't draw me in. I didn't have to pledge any emotional commitment to the story or the characters. Does that make sense? Perhaps my expectations were much too high because I love a story that MOVES me and this play flopped horribly in that area.
Basic story -- Louise and her daughter Chania comes back to town after being away for 18 years. Mother is HIGHLY irritated. Margaret, sister to Louise is ECSTATIC. Husband of Margaret is not happy about Louise being around. Okay... so you know that means Husband of Margaret slept with Louise, 18 years prior and produced Chania. You get the gist.
There were other characters in there also -- with their own stories to tell. Erika, daughter of Margaret and Husband, is a gold digger playa... who gets caught up. The man who loves her isn't rich and she cuts him loose. He makes good on many of his dreams and she wants him back and he doesn't want no parts of her. Tyrone, son of Margaret and Husband falls in love with his cousin, Chania (he thinks she's adopted because thats the story Louise has told everyone).... which turns out to be his sister.... eeeeeeeew.... FLIMSY!!!
Okay -- so what is my point in writing about this? Well, there are several but I'll only cover two of them. First, why does the writer assume that this would incite any kind of passion from the audience? I feel almost betrayed that a writer is getting paid for this. With almost the same scorn, I was irritated with the general reaction of the audience. They LOVED it! That tells me that the audience didn't EXPECT much. They don't DEMAND more of their entertainment.
But the REAL point, for me, is What is A Dream Man? The dream man is relative to a womans experiences, I suppose. I never really set out to look for a husband... but they've found me, twice now. LOL. Both of them have fulfilled me in one way or another. There have been other proposals but you just can't accept all of them. **giggles** Instant physical chemistry has been an IMPORTANT part in my selection of the ex-husband and the current. That instant attraction is CRITICAL and has been the difference.
Other than the instant chemistry, unconsciously or subconsciously I've broken my needs into four categories. Mental, Physical, Emotional and Spiritual.
MENTAL - The man of my dreams stimulates my intellect. He can maintain a conversation with me and not get lost thinking... "what is she talking about???...." LOL.
PHYSICAL - hmmm... well I don't care what ANYBODY says -- sexual intimacy is VERY important. The man of my dreams meets the needs of my physical passions and we reinforce our love with the physical intimacy.
EMOTIONAL - this is that "gray" area in a marriage.... what it boils down to -- the man of my dreams maintains my heart.
SPIRITUAL - I can only follow a mans RIGHTEOUS desires. His connection to God and the Savior must be intact in order for him to have righteous desires. Lead and I will FOLLOW.