Showing posts with label beauty. Show all posts
Showing posts with label beauty. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 22, 2018

Video Podcast Episode 8: Foot Binding and the Measure of Beauty




I enjoyed reading two books by Lisa See. Lisa See looks Caucasian, which she is, but she is very proud of her Chinese heritage that has all been washed from her physical features. I stumbled upon her writing when I borrowed Shanghai Girls from the Kahuku Public Library several years ago.

SHAMELESS PLUG for public libraries. I cannot imagine a world without access to the mountains of information that are in the public libraries. In the State of Hawaii, there are public libraries everywhere. Thanks to the internet, you can search the state's library database from home, request material from other libraries to be sent to whatever library in the State that you'd like to pick it up at, and also reserve material or computer time. All of this can be done without leaving home. Trust me, I put it to very good use! You can also download ebooks and audio books to an app that allows you to read or listen to your book. Awesome!!

ShangHai Girls forced me to observe Chinese culture from the present day. In recent years, I try not to attach a judgement to my observation. For instance, an ancient practice in China is foot binding. I look down at my extremely wide, almost flat feet, and try to imagine these 11W's being only 3 inches long. Out of curiosity I just measured my left foot. The results: 4 inches at its widest and just over 10 inches long. My foot is wider than the length of what was considered a beautiful foot in China. Is it right? Wrong? Good? Bad? I am just an observer. Foot binding might sound strange to the present day observer but is it any stranger than women paying to have their face injected with botulin (poision) to remove wrinkles temporarily? Is foot binding more strange than implanting saline pouches to make body parts larger or more prominent? Is foot binding more strange than cutting a portion of the stomach out so that a patient is forced to eat less? Beauty certainly is dictated by society.

I traveled to Malta in 2006 and went on a tour of Gozo. On our way to the ferry that would take us across the harbor to the island of Gozo, the tour guide talked about the history of Gozo. She informed us that the island was filled with monolithic depictions of large women. Apparently, the measure of beauty for people of Malta and Gozo in centuries-past was a large woman. She represented fertility and beauty and ultimate femininity. As soon as we returned from Gozo, I went to a Maltese bookstore and purchased a book on the large female statues of Gozo. I still have that book and it looks fairly new because I have only thumbed through it once. I must preserve the book! It was the only one I could find that was in English.

ShangHai Girls mentions foot binding in passing but the second Lisa See book that I read, Snow Flower and the Secret Fan, goes into detail. If you have never seen what bound feet look like, please google it. I can barely stomach the sight of them. I imagine the significance of food binding, from a man's perspective, being symbolic of the loyalty of a woman to her husband. It must be very comfortable for a man to know that no matter how abusive or misogynistic he may be, his wife will never leave his side. Even if he were to take on concubines, in Chinese culture as I understand it, a woman's worth is intrinsically tied to her value to her husband.

Both books deserve a proper review of their own but who has the time? ShangHai Girls explores the life of two Chinese women and their experience of being forced to leave Shang Hai for America in an age of war. Cultural protocol is emphasized throughout; from behavioral expectations to the memory of the ancestors. Some of the practices may seem burdensome but not more than what some of us practice in our own cultures today. In Snow Flower, the book emphasizes class distinction and marriage as the tool to boost a woman's value. However, the true significance of the book is its presentation of a language created by women and only for women; a secret language! This is not pig-latin but an actual living language steeped in poetry and symbolism called nu shu.

The overwhelming feeling in both novels is very heavy and burdensome. I'm not sure if that is what the author means to portray. I assume that the measure for Chinese-American literature would be Amy Tan, author of The Joy Luck Club (made into a movie) and The Hundred Secret Senses. If you recall from Amy Tan's work, the relationship and protocol between male and female, mother and daughter, mother and son, are all very distinct and carefully tended to. The same is true in Lisa See's books. One gets the sense that this must be a token of Chinese culture - the heavy gloom and sadness associated with being a woman, forced to do hard things and make hard choices. The mood of female Chinese-American literature is one of eventual triumph over the hard facts of life. ShangHai Girls and Snow Flower do not disappoint. If anything, Lisa See's work is a definite reminder for women to be grateful that they can choose not to bind their feet (high heels). **giggles** A woman in modern America can choose her spouse, choose where she will live, choose the destiny of her life in open attempt (not in secrecy). And so today - today I am grateful to be me.

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Thursday, January 19, 2012

PHOTO BLOG: My Home

Such an interesting tree; the sky was a perfect backdrop as well as the ocean.



I love to see fisherman out and about. It lets me know that the ocean still teems with life.

early evening: such a beautiful time of the day

the color of the grass is so mesmerizing

rocks that are normally underwater are fully exposed... beautiful!


i just love that patch of coconut trees.


walking the reef reminds me of my momz who used to take us out all the time.

Monday, March 21, 2011

March Madness: Prom

My High School Alma Mater held their annual Junior/ Senior Prom this past weekend. I had a blast helping my baby boy get through it all. He was a nervous wreck throughout the entire week. This was his first and only formal event. When I was in high school I went to EVERYTHING. Every single banquet. Every single prom. Every single winter ball. I attended every single event with a different date so I had a lot of practice interacting with persons of the opposite sex. Anyway, here are some of the pics that I snapped.

Classic Looks

I love her dress. Classic. Elegant!

One of my favorite pictures of the day.

Flower. Flowers... my favorite ones too... Red and White Roses!

I didn't really like the LADY GAGA-esque look but to each his own. She rocked it.

Very nice.

Both of these boys... my babies! They grew up so fast. **sigh**

My baby boy and his date... very nice pic!

My other baby boy and his date.

Loved this dress. Very classy!

One of my favorite dresses of the evening!

Another favorite dress. All the beading and sequins was very nice!

The yellow dress was OUTSTANDING!

Another favorite dress!

I love their style!

Puanani blew me away with this dress. It is a hit!

This was the MOST original color dress of the evening. Very nice!

Saturday, January 01, 2011

Sun Setting on 2010


I see skies of blue and clouds of white
The bright blessed day, dark sacred night
And I think to myself
What a wonderful world

Thursday, August 19, 2010

TMI: Hairy... continued

Congratulate me. I did it! I didn't chicken out from going to my first laser hair removal treatment. I got there about 15 minutes early. I was super nervous. I checked in with the receptionist. She was not as friendly as the first receptionist I met when I went for a consultation but the technician more than made up for it.

How the procedure works...
1. The area that will be treated is iced for 5-10 minutes.
2. She starts blasting away at the hair

I have to say that the upper lip was the most painful part. Other than that -- it was all good. The sensation feels like a pin prick but if you're iced up really good, it's not bad at all. I'm glad I did it and I'm counting on the results to be fabulous. As for right now, Chewbacca has less hair than me. Kidding... but it sure does feel that way!

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

TMI: Hairy

I've been talking about it for years and I'm finally going to do it. I am going through with laser hair removal treatment. It's a cosmetic, outpatient procedure stretched out over several months. My first treatment is today. I'm kinda nervous but so ready to do this. I pluck, wax, and nair and just can't keep up with the facial hair.

The facial hair is totally hormonal and is one of the symptoms of my infertility woes. Apparently, my body does not produce enough progesterone to stave off the effects of the testosterone thus... facial hair. I've been putting this off for so long but I finally made the time to do it. I wish I started earlier.

Here's the crazy thing: while getting treatment, I CANNOT pluck, nair, or wax. The only thing I can do is shave. Uggghhhh!!!! Shaving on women is so unattractive. It makes a woman's face look all masculine. But at this point, I don't really care! I'll be glad with the final results. After the first treatment, I have to allow the hair to fall out on its own. The hair will continue to grow until the follicle dies. I feel like going into hibernation for a couple months. (I'm glad I'm not working yet.)

The technician I consulted with advised that I come for my follow-up treatments every six weeks. If I could, I'd do it every four weeks. I'm just really ready to get this done and over with. Send me good vibes!!